Now officially a non-profit!

  1. We are now a Minnesota non-profit – After five months of work, we became a non-profit organization in Minnesota on 4-17-15, our new legal status in Minnesota. We have completed our organizational Bylaws, Articles of Incorporation, and other documents, all done in official legalese. Our new legal status will help us become exempt from Minnesota taxes, so that we can offer more relationship and skill training services to individuals, families and organizations in Southeastern Minnesota.
  2. We meet two Federal non-profit criteria – Federal non-profit organizations, which are overseen by the IRS, must meet at least one of three designated purposes. Through legal consultation, we have learned that we qualify for two out of the three Federal criteria. Although meeting the educational criteria was our main goal, we have discovered that we also meet the religious criteria. Of course, we are not a church or religious institution. But because we help religious organizations meet their goals, we qualify for the religious non-profit criteria under federal law. We are now in the process of applying for federal non-profit status.
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Duane Nelson

Born and raised in the Minneapolis, Duane is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has made his home in Rochester for the last 25 years. Duane has been married for 33 years to his wife, Cathy. The two met while doing music at the same church in Minneapolis. Duane and Cathy have two adult daughters, and the family love to travel and play cribbage together. Duane plays guitar and percussion, and the couple still make music together. Duane enjoys gardening, cookouts, hiking, reading, downhill skiing, and hanging out with friends. Duane holds three graduate degrees, two mental health licenses, and two major counseling certifications. He has worked professionally for 37 years in addiction treatment, mental health, clinical social work, pastoral counseling, and marriage and family therapy. Duane is widely regarded as an expert in marriage and family therapy. Following his retirement from Mayo Clinic, Duane founded Healthy Relationships Rochester. This innovative organization is based on developing the concept of Relationship Intelligence through teaching and disseminating best-practice relationship education and skill training programs in a variety of non-clinical settings.

Third communication skills workshop complete! Next up, STEP for parenting.

  1. Completed Workshops – We finished our third communication skills workshop in January and our second conflict resolution workshop in March, 2015. These programs were well received, and participant feedback was that they were positive, informative, and helpful.
  2. Our Next Workshop – Our next offering of the STEP program (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting) will begin the second half of May, 2015. It will be held at Assisi Heights. STEP is a well designed and researched program for parents who want to learn strategies, skills, and concepts to improve their relationships with their children. See our parent education page for a description of the STEP program. Contact Us to register for this outstanding parenting program.  

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Duane Nelson

Born and raised in the Minneapolis, Duane is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has made his home in Rochester for the last 25 years. Duane has been married for 33 years to his wife, Cathy. The two met while doing music at the same church in Minneapolis. Duane and Cathy have two adult daughters, and the family love to travel and play cribbage together. Duane plays guitar and percussion, and the couple still make music together. Duane enjoys gardening, cookouts, hiking, reading, downhill skiing, and hanging out with friends. Duane holds three graduate degrees, two mental health licenses, and two major counseling certifications. He has worked professionally for 37 years in addiction treatment, mental health, clinical social work, pastoral counseling, and marriage and family therapy. Duane is widely regarded as an expert in marriage and family therapy. Following his retirement from Mayo Clinic, Duane founded Healthy Relationships Rochester. This innovative organization is based on developing the concept of Relationship Intelligence through teaching and disseminating best-practice relationship education and skill training programs in a variety of non-clinical settings.

Latest counseling updates

  1. Save On Our Bundled Service Packages – Did you know we offer bundled service packages at reduced rates? You can save 15% on our brief package, and 25% on our regular package. These packages can combine various services, including assessment, standardized testing for couples and parents, regular screening tools, couples counseling, skill training workshops, individual counseling, outcome evaluations, and follow-up sessions. We have  packages that fit most people’s needs, or we can design a package for your exact needs and preferences.
  2. Education Helps Troubled Marriages – People often think only counseling can help a troubled marriage. New research confirms that troubled couples can benefit from a number of best practice education and skill training programs as well. This doesn't mean couples should not get marriage counseling. To the contrary - the real message is that combined education and counseling are probably the best way to go. 
  3. Parenting Defiant Kids – Oppositional defiance in children is probably the most researched issue in all of psychology. Many parents and professionals think the way to deal with child defiance is to bring them to counseling. In most situations, the most effective treatment is neither child nor family counseling - it's parenting training. We offer best practice parenting education and skill training, and for much less expense than counseling costs. See our parent education page for more information. Read more about this issue on our professional page.
  4. Discernment Counseling – This is a new service that has been developed out of the University of Minnesota. It is for couples who are considering divorce, but one or both partners are not entirely sure about going down that path. Discernment counseling is not marriage counseling. Rather, it is a process of helping the couple make a decision about the future of their marriage. Often one partner is leaning in and one is leaning out, and the couple are torn about which direction to go. The goal of discernment counseling is for the couple to make a decision they can feel clear and confident about, and to have no regrets looking back. See our discernment counseling page for more information.
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Duane Nelson

Born and raised in the Minneapolis, Duane is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has made his home in Rochester for the last 25 years. Duane has been married for 33 years to his wife, Cathy. The two met while doing music at the same church in Minneapolis. Duane and Cathy have two adult daughters, and the family love to travel and play cribbage together. Duane plays guitar and percussion, and the couple still make music together. Duane enjoys gardening, cookouts, hiking, reading, downhill skiing, and hanging out with friends. Duane holds three graduate degrees, two mental health licenses, and two major counseling certifications. He has worked professionally for 37 years in addiction treatment, mental health, clinical social work, pastoral counseling, and marriage and family therapy. Duane is widely regarded as an expert in marriage and family therapy. Following his retirement from Mayo Clinic, Duane founded Healthy Relationships Rochester. This innovative organization is based on developing the concept of Relationship Intelligence through teaching and disseminating best-practice relationship education and skill training programs in a variety of non-clinical settings.

Latest staff news

  1. Three Directors are selected – We have three directors who will serve as the decision makers for non-profit organization, Healthy Relationships Rochester. The first is Duane Nelson, founder and CEO. Duane is a licensed marriage and family therapist, licensed independent clinical social worker, and certified pastoral counselor. Duane has been conducting relationship education and skill training for many years. The second is Cathy Nelson. (Yes, the two are married.) Cathy is a teacher, educator, musician, music minister, composer, and retreat director. She is trained in two communication skill programs. She holds a master’s degree in Christian Spirituality. Cathy has been involved in the formation and development of HRR at multiple levels since its inception. The third director is Marie Nelson, the couple’s eldest daughter. Marie majored in psychology and Spanish, and earned her master’s degree in education. Marie currently teaches Spanish and English as a second language. She has been involved in curriculum design and development, and is a masterful teacher.
  2. Other Staff are waiting in the wings – We have several people who have been partially trained and are eager to engage more fully. Several educators and counselors have expressed interest in becoming trained in different content areas, and will begin training shortly. 

  3. We need Volunteers – Check us out. We need volunteers to do a variety of things, and would love to have a volunteer coordinator step forward.  If you have teaching, health care, management, or counseling experience, contact us to see if your interests, skills, and talents match the needs of our growing organization. There are many opportunities for involvement at a variety of levels. For more information, please read our About section, as well as our education, workshops, and counseling pages. Check us out, then Contact us. Let's talk...

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Duane Nelson

Born and raised in the Minneapolis, Duane is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has made his home in Rochester for the last 25 years. Duane has been married for 33 years to his wife, Cathy. The two met while doing music at the same church in Minneapolis. Duane and Cathy have two adult daughters, and the family love to travel and play cribbage together. Duane plays guitar and percussion, and the couple still make music together. Duane enjoys gardening, cookouts, hiking, reading, downhill skiing, and hanging out with friends. Duane holds three graduate degrees, two mental health licenses, and two major counseling certifications. He has worked professionally for 37 years in addiction treatment, mental health, clinical social work, pastoral counseling, and marriage and family therapy. Duane is widely regarded as an expert in marriage and family therapy. Following his retirement from Mayo Clinic, Duane founded Healthy Relationships Rochester. This innovative organization is based on developing the concept of Relationship Intelligence through teaching and disseminating best-practice relationship education and skill training programs in a variety of non-clinical settings.

Parenting Training and NARME Conference

  1. Parenting Training – Save the date now if you are interested in becoming a parenting educator. On June 11, 2015 the STEP program (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting) will be offering a one-day introductory training in Chicago. The training is conducted by one of the original developers of the STEP program, as well as several other expert parenting trainers. Contact Us for more information for more information on how to become a parent educator. 
  2. NARME Conference – NARME stands for the National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education. This annual conference for relationship educators will be held in Atlanta, June 15-17, 2015. If you want to learn about the field of relationship education, hear national experts firsthand, network with other relationship educators, learn about what's being done in other cities and states, or just immerse yourself in the programs, people, books, and resources, this is the conference to go to. Look up NARME online to read about all the activities, and to register.

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Duane Nelson

Born and raised in the Minneapolis, Duane is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has made his home in Rochester for the last 25 years. Duane has been married for 33 years to his wife, Cathy. The two met while doing music at the same church in Minneapolis. Duane and Cathy have two adult daughters, and the family love to travel and play cribbage together. Duane plays guitar and percussion, and the couple still make music together. Duane enjoys gardening, cookouts, hiking, reading, downhill skiing, and hanging out with friends. Duane holds three graduate degrees, two mental health licenses, and two major counseling certifications. He has worked professionally for 37 years in addiction treatment, mental health, clinical social work, pastoral counseling, and marriage and family therapy. Duane is widely regarded as an expert in marriage and family therapy. Following his retirement from Mayo Clinic, Duane founded Healthy Relationships Rochester. This innovative organization is based on developing the concept of Relationship Intelligence through teaching and disseminating best-practice relationship education and skill training programs in a variety of non-clinical settings.