Forgiveness IQ Test

  1. Forgiveness means letting the past stay in the past.   or F
  2. Forgiveness is a decision to let go of an emotional debt.   or F
  3. Forgiveness requires that you go back to the relationship, and do the best you can.   or F
  4. Repeatedly forgiving someone for the same thing is only punishing yourself.   T or F
  5. Refusing to forgive only hurts yourself.   or F
  6. Forgiveness involves a process of grieving.   or F
  7. Forgiveness eliminates our justification to blame someone who has hurt us.   or F
  8. We are not obligated to forgive until we receive an apology.   or F
  9. Forgiveness excuses a wrong that was done to us.   or F
  10. Forgiveness helps us develop more compassion for others.   or F

All of our IQ tests are based on research evidence and the knowledge of relationship scholars. Check out our tips on the right side of the page to read about the findings and principles behind our IQ tests. In the future we want you to be able to compare your score to other groups: therapists, physicians, pastors, teachers, couples, singles. Donate to our non-profit organization so that we can conduct this important research.

How did you do? Answers are as follows: 

1. F     2. T     3. F     4. F     5. F     6. T     7. T     8. F     9. F     10. T

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Duane Nelson

Born and raised in the Minneapolis, Duane is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has made his home in Rochester for the last 25 years. Duane has been married for 33 years to his wife, Cathy. The two met while doing music at the same church in Minneapolis. Duane and Cathy have two adult daughters, and the family love to travel and play cribbage together. Duane plays guitar and percussion, and the couple still make music together. Duane enjoys gardening, cookouts, hiking, reading, downhill skiing, and hanging out with friends. Duane holds three graduate degrees, two mental health licenses, and two major counseling certifications. He has worked professionally for 37 years in addiction treatment, mental health, clinical social work, pastoral counseling, and marriage and family therapy. Duane is widely regarded as an expert in marriage and family therapy. Following his retirement from Mayo Clinic, Duane founded Healthy Relationships Rochester. This innovative organization is based on developing the concept of Relationship Intelligence through teaching and disseminating best-practice relationship education and skill training programs in a variety of non-clinical settings.